Hence it’s your responsibility to make sure she doesn’t receive unwarranted treatment from them.
Their parents and extended families have absolutely none.
But each Indian family works in its own complicated way (don’t take it personally, I know “we’re like that only”;)).
That’s something you have a right to protect yourself against. Then mention to her that, at the same time you don’t want to receive info about her past life from outsiders and look like a fool.
So the middle ground here is to know only as much as is necessary, and in this case you have a right to demand that information from your wife. Tell her first that you love her as she is, and that you have realized that finding out intricate details about her past life is not going to help your relationship. Between the two of you, you might have issues (every couple has).
basics like how many past relationships she’s been in, how many of them she’s had sex with and who was the last. At the same time you must promise (her and yourself) never to entertain these advances from outsiders. Coming to the question of your parents’ reaction – you should remember that your wife is living with your parents.
It’s she who’s moved to a new home and made a new family her own, not them.I understand it might be impossible for you to convey this to your parents in as many words. If that’s the case, tell them politely (not in front of your wife, of course) that if they have any questions about your wife, they can ask you, not her, and not in front of her. It isn’t just the “getting it off my chest”, although that certainly helps, but it’s the conversation I get in return.The comments…”comments” sounds way too sterile, it’s the way you are willing to share your heart with me in return.Incidentally, one of her friends visited us and hinted that my wife is “not as simple as she pretends to be”. That kind of probing is guaranteed to make any relationship worse.