You'll get higher quality matches." It's easy to get caught up worrying what your dates want and care about and to neglect your own wants and needs. For example, people who have trouble loving themselves will often choose partners who will confirm their beliefs about themselves." While relationships are serious business, make sure that you enjoy yourself.
One of the best things you can do in this process is to be self-aware. Krimer told me in our interview, "It's really easy to get caught up in the stresses of meeting someone — let alone meeting the right someone." Instead of letting yourself get stressed out, she suggested, "Make a conscious choice to think of ways to find enjoyment in meeting new people and putting yourself out there — focus on the process instead of the outcome.
She said, "Do know your goals for what you're looking for — what are your intimacy and relationship needs?
You want your photos to be an accurate representation of you so that when people meet you in real life, they get what they expect.
Therapist Katie Krimer, MS, LMSW told me, "If you are on dating sites, the first impression is everything!
Krimer told me, "Check in with yourself before you get out into the dating world or whilst dating." Krimer suggested that you ask yourself the following questions: "What is it that might be affecting/might affect your dating experience? If you put too much pressure on the expectation of meeting someone, you're much more likely to feel disappointed or discouraged if it's not what you expect it to be." I've seen many friends let their longterm goals go out the window when they meet someone they really like, but who may not be a great long term match.
Krimer suggested that you keep your goals front and center.
Are you getting into relationships with people with conflicting relationship goals (i.e.
you want a long term relationship, but your current partner just sees it as a casual fling)?
Bennett told me, "Different apps have different strengths and weaknesses.
It may take some time to find which app is right for you.
Unfortunately, these sites encourage people to judge based on physicality, more than the content of character — that's the nature of the online/app dating game." Krimer added, "To maximize your success in meeting the right person, have photographs that are reflective of who you are and what you look like.
The first photo is your first impression — try and remember that when you're coming up with your collection.
Bennett told me in our interview, "Don't use a boring or standard opening message.